Friday, May 25, 12:15AM
Music: Brena, A Perfect Circle
So, taking a cue from my friend Kim, I have decided to start my own blog.. I am doing this somewhat for a selfish reason. I feel that it will be very cathartic in dealing with the major decisions I have had to make recently to make my own life better. Music has always been an important part of my life. I connect with it, it speaks to me, and it helps me interpret my own feelings. The song choice that I am listening to while writing these blogs is not coincidental. Check out the song on YouTube to understand more.
So, most of you reading are already my friends :) However how much do you really know about me?
Yes, I was born on December 23, 1977 (yes it sucks..people don't get pregnant in March!). My parents are Jerry and Karen Harber. I was born and raised in Monroe, MI, on a wonderful street called Cranbrook, where I met my 2 bestest friends and sisters in life, Julie and Kim. Of course there are many people that came and went, some whom I still talk to, but they have been the constant in my life. I graduated from Monroe High in 1996, went on a tennis and academic scholarship to Saginaw Valley State, graduating in 1999. Since then, I have been going through life, making a lot of 180 degree turns until I find what it is I truly want.
I have the best dad in the world. I know there are those that beg to argue, but of course it's based on perspective. My dad has sacrificed everything to ensure that I was raised well, that I was smart, that I knew right from wrong, and that I could do anything that I put my mind too. He never belittled me, he never treated me different because I was a girl, and I'm sure he wanted a boy at some point. I was everything to him, and I still am. I'm just okay with sharing him now with my stepmother who is an amazing woman. I am sure I will blog a lot about my dad, but suffice to say, those that know how also know what a good hearted man he is.
My mother is another story. Many don't know the truth behind her. She puts on an AMAZING act for everyone. She deserves an Oscar. She is also the reason I have been in and out of therapy since I was 19 years old, and on and off anti-depressants. Much of this blog will revolve around me trying to put her toxic behavior behind me and moving forward in my life.
The funny thing about Julie and Kim....our dad's were our primary parent growing up. They sacrificed their own happiness and life to put us forward in life. They were always going to be there for us. We always searched for a man, a partner in life that would make our dad's proud, and who would even be able to hold a feather to them. We put them on a pedestal, and they lived up to everything we expected from them. Our dads were going to be around forever, we never really put into perspective about life and death. Then Jack died suddenly 4 years ago in October. And suddenly, it was real. Our dads weren't going to be around forever. He was a surrogate dad to me as well, and to all of us. It was nearly as painful as it would be to lose my own. We grew up. Reality set in.
So here I am today. I have decided to finish a degree in Human Resource Management at Eastern Michigan University. I now live on my own, have a great job at Advance Auto Parts as an Assistant Manager, and a job I actually like! Although friends come and go, I still have Julie and Kim. I have also added another best friend to my inner circle named Dale. I'm sure I'll talk about my friendship with him at some point. But these three friends know me, they know the good and the bad and they accept me for who I am. No questions asked. Of course I'm sure there are a few shanks involved (inside joke), and I'm sure Kim and Julie have shaken their head at some of my antics as much as Dale has, but that is what a true friend does.
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